Why I Love Having Reiki Friends

sky friendsWhen I first got started as a Reiki professional, I lived in a small town. There were a lot of bodyworkers and folks who worked in the healing arts, and some who had taken a Reiki course, but honestly, I was obsessed with Reiki. I was practicing on myself everyday, reading books and articles, and practicing on my roommates and our animal  companions. For awhile I kept in touch with my teacher and other students from my workshops, but I lived two hours from that community.  I was in my own bubble. It was a pleasant bubble, but most people I talked to had never heard of this technique. (However, I got really good at answering that question: “what is Reiki?”)

I yearned for friends who already knew what I was talking about. Someone who already “got” it, even if their version was different than mine.

One day, I received an email from a woman who lived in town. She also practiced Reiki and asked if I wanted to grab a cup of coffee. I was nervous, and honestly I felt a little competitive at the time (another Reiki practitioner in this small town? Are they going to take my clients?) I swallowed my pride and accepted the invite. I arrived a few minutes early. She was already there, writing on her laptop, and greeted me with a big smile. After that first coffee date, a friendship was born. We had a lot more in common than I initally expected.

Over the years, I’ve learned so much from our friendship as well as our different relationships to this energy. Here’s a short list of why I love having Reiki friends.

  • Exchanges! Feeling good is what initially drew me in to this world. I was doing my daily self-treatments and offering others Reiki, but I really appreciate receiving those good vibes too! Usually once a month, or whenever my Reiki friends and I need some stress relief, we put aside a couple hours and exchange. After we are relaxed, we spent some time drinking tea and chatting on the couch. Distance Reiki exchanges are also great for when time and travel are an issue.
  • Having others who “speak the same language.” The first time I attended a day-long Reiki workshop (for established practitioners), I almost cried. Looking back, I had felt so isolated doing this work, educating lots of people, but not having “my people.” When I walked into this room filled with so many other young folks who were practicing, I was in heaven. I felt like I was part of something much bigger than myself: a community.
  • Healthy relationships. This one is two-fold. First, I find it easier to get to know people when my social anxiety isn’t screaming at me. When I am calm and relaxed, I bring forward the best version of myself. Second, Reiki creates a calm space where we often gain insight and clarity. As a friend, I feel more helpful sharing Reiki when heavy emotion is at present or when a conversation is replaying itself. I like being able to support my friends when they ask for Reiki, and I like being supported in this way too. I know my friends have my back.
  • Learning how others use Reiki. One thing I know about Reiki is that everyone is doing it differently– and that’s a good thing! I love learning about what Reiki podcasts my friends are listening to or what books influence are influencing them. I like sharing what I’m digging as well. It will definitely spark a conversation, get your creative juices flowing, and maybe even dispel some belief systems that we didn’t even know we had. Get to know what people are doing out there!
    • some people are using Reiki to work with animals, with childbirth, with end of life, in hospitals, teaching long-form or short-form, having full time private practices, traveling teachers, or volunteering.
    • Some people use Reiki for YouTube videos, podcasting, writing articles, organizing conferences, researching history, or writing books.
    • Still others use it for their garden, for helping their kids sleep at night, for clearing ghosts or weird vibes in a room, or for healing ancestral or childhood wounds. The variety is endless!


Caroline Ruderman, Reiki Master TeacherCaroline Ruderman is a Reiki teacher and practitioner in Northampton, MA and has office hours Monday-Friday, including daytime and evening hours. Like her on Facebook or reach out with questions at CarolineRuderman@gmail.com.


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