September 24, 2020
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What is the Reiki Triangle?

Mulling over my morning coffee, I sat on my back porch and remembered the words of a friend: “we have to treat ourselves, treat others, and let others treat us.”  Those words stuck. I had been growing my Reiki practice and while I treated myself every night, I had not received any of those good vibes from anyone else in a long time. It was an instant reminder that aspect of my practice needed attention.

The Reiki Triangle is a self-assessment tool for our Reiki practice. The Reiki Triangle consists of three parts: treating ourselves, treating others, and allowing ourselves to be treated. This is a concept that helps me get a sense of “where I’m at”– with my relationships and with my practice in general.  Reiki is a practice just like meditation or yoga. I can get thrown off in the minutia of daily life, but when I look back to the past month or season, I have an assessment tool. I can look at any of Reiki Triangle’s three points, and ask myself, how am I doing here?

It’s not a judgment thing. You cannot do this work wrong. The Reiki Triangle is a way to quickly and easily reminder to keep a balanced flow of energy.

Treat Ourselves: Our daily self practice is uniquely ours. Anytime we’re turning that balancing energy inwards, laying our hands on ourselves with the intention to ignite the Reiki flow, we’re doing self treatment. The reason why we do this is because we deserve to feel good. The how and when is up to you.

Perhaps when you are in front of your computer or sitting at your desk, you treat your abdomen. As your anxiety creeps up, maybe you pause to rest your hands on the forehead and base of the skull and the heart center. Maybe your nighttime routine includes Reiki for sleep. There’s no limit to how much you can do. 

Treat Others: Treating others is as simple as turning our palms outward. After we fill ourselves up, the overflow goes to the world around us. People, animals, relationships, plants, trees, work environments, homes or ancestors. The simple practice of letting the Reiki energy flow outwards will help others find balance in their own way.

We don’t need to be attached to the outcome. Of course, seeing someone feel better or averting a political crisis is a noble intention; however, take the pressure off yourself. Offering Reiki to others often has unseen effects. Know that instead of worrying, you took action and sent good vibes. We do the best we can.

Let Others Treat Us: Allowing others to take care of us is an equal third in the Reiki Triangle. The key word is allowing. Being in a state of receptivity, the yin flow, or allowing ourselves to rest and receive is so important. Personally, I am very quick to help others; it brings me a lot of joy. I used to hesitate to ask for help or support until I was ready to implode. I learn a lot when I ask for support. New perspectives or fresh energies can make a really big shift in areas that are troublesome. Also there are many people out there who receive joy from offering this work. So why not let it in?

Seeking out Reiki friends for exchanges, attending (or hosting!) regular local Reiki shares, or finding an online community to receive and share distance healings are all possible ways to do this. Of course, find Reiki practitioners whose company you enjoy and that you trust. If you don’t know anyone or haven’t built your Reiki community yet, there are many talented professionals out there.

The Reiki Triangle is an easy way to keep balanced! Check in regularly and take steps to improve the areas of your practice. It’s ok to feel uncomfortable asking for support or blocking off time for yourself. But you know what? When you’re happy and feeling good, the people around you feel it too.


Caroline Ruderman, Reiki Master TeacherCaroline Ruderman is a Reiki teacher and practitioner in Northampton, MA and has office hours Monday-Friday, including daytime and evening hours. Like her on Facebook or reach out with questions at

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